What it comes down to is your actions in the end. As the saying goes actions speak louder than words. We can make careful plans if needed to to end relationships we do not wish to stay in. Start making plans for the life you want.
I want my daughters too learn, live and breath this. I think every woman needs to learn to not need anyone and to always always be able to hold herself up alone. Nothing wrong with love of being with a man, just learn to keep your independence!
Anyone can have a child and call themselves a parent. A real parent is someone who puts that child above their own selfish needs and wants. People shouldn't pretend they are the best parent when someone else is raising their child