The writer must be in it, we can't be to one side of it, ever. He has to be endangered by it. His own attitudes have to be tested in it. The best work that anybody ever writes is the work that is on the verge of embarrassing him, always.
"A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it just blooms." --- Everything is you and God thing, and there is nobody else involved. So comparing or competing is just waste of time. Keep focusing on yourself, focusing of loving yourself.