Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame others for having feelings. Abusive people do this
the toxic person. They live in a blissful world where nothing is ever their responsibility. When bad things happen, it is because the world is against them! When they are raging abuse at you, it is because YOU made them angry.
For two-plus hours, I had to look at him while he yelled at me for spending all of his money and him asking me where it went, after I gave him proof in the form of a store receipt. Yes, I have known a controlling person.