Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers by Chris..........That's why I choose not to have children, being a child of a narcissistic mother , then a husband and mother-in-law, I didn't know what to call it then but I do now!.. It as taken me years to heal...............
"Good Christian parents" can masqurade as victims. It is actually very common and though many Christian narcissist parents would have the world believe that they have a wayward child, the truth can be uncovered when the scapegoat is no longer willing to play that role. The separation in this case has nothing to do with Christianity as they would have many believe. It is NPD that broke us and pride, deceit, and a pretend cloak of piety that will keep us apart indefinitely.
Reminds me of my Narcissistic Mother In Law and how her adult children's are always turning a blind eye towards her bad behaviour. My narcissistic mother in law got all her adult children to worship and fear her.
The scene you showed at the memorial service was just too much. You knew the situation and had to be the center of attention and to try to make people believe you were to be the wife when he had a wife already. You really looked pathetic as usual.