Toxic people will hurt you and then try to make you feel bad that you are mad or hurt or upset. It's known as blame shifting. Instead of taking accountability for their own actions, they blame others for having feelings. Abusive people do this
But in proper Christianity thats what sin is. A correctable mistake. You say your sorry learn and grow and move on with your life and with faith. Condemnation only happens if you don't admit your wrong, don't apologize, or don't change your ways.