Let people do what they nned to do to make themselves happy, mind your own business, and do what you need to do to make yourself happy. Why is this so hard for some people? Isn't that what we all want? To be happy?
Hopefully when we are us there will be less stress and hopefully none from me, so that won't be such a worry. Oh and we'll be active, so you won't need to worry about the other either, plus I'll love you no matter what.