Passive Aggressive Behavior: A Form of Domestic Abuse. This is an excellent article on how to spot it and how to deal with it. You are not crazy, and there is help
The silent treatment is commonly used by narcissists and sociopaths. It is dished out as punishment, and means the victim ceases to exist in their world.
Shannon Hegarty- KING of passive/aggressive behavior. Passive aggressive people hide their real feeling of anger by appearing nice and aggreable