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Neediness and dependence are draining, to all involved. If you can take more responsibility for yourself, and your actions, you can grow stronger. You will 'need' less, because you are providing the solutions by yourself.
See how that doesnt work? The message we wind up sending is that our behavior our words and possibly the direction our life takes are dependent upon what someone else does or says. We are saying Im not going to do my part if you dont do yours.