Yeah well the man he used to be was now he has turned into a disrespectful piece of shit who treats a woman who's loved him through it all and chose to for 12 years like shit and that is getting ready to change now.
If you love and respect a person, you do not lie. It doesn't matter how a person is going to react. Honesty is always the best policy. One lie. That's all it takes and the trust is gone, the foundation crumbles, the relationship dies.