Don't ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. you are not responsible for their happiness. you're responsible for your own happiness. Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in
Sometimes you just have to close your eyes, count to ten, take a deep breath, remind yourself that you wouldn't look good in prison stripes and just smile at that dumbass and walk away. Well, not just sometimes.