Do I have to go to mediation?
This is not just a yes/no question. It's important to understand, the rules, the context for those rules and wider issues such as if you don't mediate how will you find a way forward. Have a look at the new blog series to find some answers.
Separation: what do you need from each other?
In the last part of this series on how your family changes with separation, we're looking at what you need from each other to create the best co-parenting relationship going forwards.
What do your children need from you to make separation arrangements work?
In a separation it can be helpful to ask yourself what your children need from each of you - this might be for reassurance, for greater calmness, or to be on board with the arrangements you're making.
Have you thought about how your family life will change after the separation?
Some changes are obvious when you're going to separate but others can creep up on you without you realising. Planning for the small as well as the big changes can help you manage the transition more calmly - for you and your children.
Creating a vision of your post separation life
It might sound daft but creating a vision of what you want your post separation life to be like can give you something to aim for and make you feel less like your groping in the dark. Having a strong vision can also mean that you can check arrangements to see if they feel like they align with this vision.
Making arrangements when you separate
In this third part of the blog series looking at how your family changes in a separation we're talking about turning your vision into practical arrangements.
Are you emotionally ready for family mediation?
People often think being prepared for family mediation is about having information ready in folders. They overlook the importance of being far enough along in the grieving or recovery process.