These are just a few things abusive people do. Abuse or putting enough pressure on you to help you step up to a better version of yourself. It depends on the dynamics of the people involved, their motive, and intent.
Narcissists will provoke you and verbally attack you. When you react to their abuse and defend yourself, they'll turn either rageful or play the victim in front of others to make you look bad. They are con artists who are spiteful and revengeful.