Looking to what we want to see happen rather than focusing on what we're afraid of creates a positive and productive dynamic that elevates your discussions and provides room to HOPE that your future will be good.
Quite possibly, this is the cruelest thing that you could do to someone. Particularly when you don't understand it or only know part of the truth (at best), anyway. Let people live; let people learn. (Those are not my words but well said.