This first 10 minute video is about changing parenting today due to delayed adulthood. I didn't get to the ODD part but he seems worth checking out. Solutions for Difficult Oppositional Defiant Children & Teens
ADHD behavior issues are often seen along with ODD, making discipline a challenge. Here are strategies for managing and treating an angry, defiant child. an especially hard task when you have a short fuse yourself!
Things to ponder. Opposition Defiant Disorder - "Teens test boundaries, make mistakes and sometimes have little respect for their parents. Teens with ODD experience these normal teenage behaviors but may have a harder time living with them.