Here’s the Secret Phrase to Turn Your Kid Into an Amazing Student -- "You worked really hard". Source 93892 about smarts vs effort, fixed mindset vs growth mindset and how focusing on kids being "smart" actually sets them up for failure.
Anxiety quote: Everyday is a struggle even when I’m at my best. My anxiety is always with me and my panic taps me on my shoulder a few times a day. On my good days I can brush it off. On my bad days I just want to stay in bed.