Wise words! "Remember that Jesus died for each and every parenting blunder you have done and will do in the future. Seek your joy in him and rely on his strength and wisdom alone." http://www.desiringgod.org/blog/posts/the-sanctifying-work-of-parenthood
Now everyone is on the internet. See what happens is a plague breaks out, so instead of thinking rationally, we kill all the cats in the village, now the village is over ran with rats eating up all the food stores. In essence, the heart was in the right place but all it did was make a bad situation worse. For all the power plays and manipulations, no, we don't really have an identity. So when we do come across a reflection, boom, we snap, why ?