unfortunately this is true. but then it isn't a true test of friendship if you wave goodbye so easily. yet if you are unable to challenge yourself by lifting a finger, then do your friend a favor and be honest about it. go from there.
I want my daughters too learn, live and breath this. I think every woman needs to learn to not need anyone and to always always be able to hold herself up alone. Nothing wrong with love of being with a man, just learn to keep your independence!