cheating does more damage to the betrayed spouse.it ruins their outlook on love and future relationships suffer. How can you do that to someone you once loved and shared a life with? Wouldn't it be kinder to just be honest? Yet she still hurts you !
I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception. and we are all on our level of learning so don't blame someone because they're below or above you - we're all learning as best we can.