Mother Mary By giving her to John, Jesus the Perfect Jew, was also giving her to the Church as our mother, the Mother of the Mystical Body of Christ which Paul says we are. If Jesus had real brothers the next oldest would have been obligated by Jewish Law to care for her. Since there was no word then for uncle or cousin all were called brothers.
False notions of love teach us that it is the place where we will feel no pain, where we will be in a state of constant bliss. We have to expose the falseness of these beliefs to see and accept the reality that suffering and pain do not end when we begin to love. In some cases when we are making the slow journey back from lovelessness to love, our suffering may become more intense. Acceptance of pain is part of loving practice. — bell hooks, All About Love