Your heart will ask you what you want, but your mind will tell you what you NEED. If the goal isn't on both lists, then it is unnecessary. I'll always choose my mind over my heart. No matter how much it may hurt.
It is easy to overindulge through the premise of love, however it can cause some children to have an attitude of entitlement. That is why we have a generation of young people that feel entitled to having everything given to them.