My ex-narc actually tried telling me he couldn't take my abuse any more! He was evil in every way possible, but when I finally stood up for myself after years of being bullied and terrorized, I was abusing him. Deflection at it's finest!
Every time I was momentarily freed it was exhilarating. Then the fear and doubt he'd worked so hard to instill would rush in. Then I'd find myself back together with him and wondering how it was all happening again.