All perspectives are good to remember. I have not been a very good military wife but I have been an excellent wife myself. --- I was a textbook “good military spouse.” And I really wish someone had told me not to bother.
When my spouse left for an unaccompanied yearlong tour, I was clueless. I was new to Army life. I was new to being a military spouse. I was new to being a spouse in general! I was living away from an installation. And finally, I was a little scared.