A message to all bullies who treat their victim(s) like they are worthless, then play the victim when they are confronted for their abuse, and act stunned when people want to end the relationship with them.
The narcissist or sociopath picks their target exactly, and then destroys all the qualities that attracted them in the first place. Always jealous, always envious, always trying to destroy my life, always failing.
As soon as you think "let me give him/her the benefit of the doubt" more than once, you probably have a toxic person in your life. It's become a rule of thumb for me. Listen to your gut and don't ignore any red flags.
A full year.and that only works if you truly can get away from your narcissistic abuser and have no contact any further, not conversations, not physical visits.you need to heal. You need to be alone and allow yourself to heal.
We feel angry and embarrassed when we are sucked in by someone who lies and manipulates. We resent the time, energy and love we offered them in good faith because it was all for nothing. They don& even appreciate what they took from us because it is.