That is so important. Love is never deceitful. It isn't deceitful to your spouse. And it isn't deceitful to your children. If there is deceit in a relationship, it is not true love, rather it is self-serving and selfish for personal gain.
"You don't find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself… and then find a man who's worthy of you. Remember that." So please don't try to seek out your worth in approval from a man & own his personal opinion, because he's only human.