"The rules were simple at face value. Do as he said, don't disturb him, be pretty, don't make a mess, little things like that. Break a rule and you were punished as harshly as the amount of alcohol in his system called for. The problem was, the rules were always changing."
They'll even talk you up to others until they've realized you've had enough of being treated like crap, then ask kinds of lies and half truths come out to try to win sympathy and make them look like the victims.