I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what you understand. Although as an author I am responsible for making readers understand--a reader who doesn't understand is an unhappy reader. (And there is some value to leaving some questions unanswered.
Don't be the one whose bitterness, smallness, and insecurities spill over into other peoples lives. Don't ever let others make you feel like a victim. Sensitivity and a big heart that is easily broken does not equal victim!