"To heal a wound you need to stop touching it." Leave it alone, I get it but some wounds are open because they were never addressed corectly. like when a scar forms, there will always be a reminder of what happened and to teach what not to do again.
"Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either inviting them to stay or desiring them never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the way" Zen saying